Gut Feeling – and what changes it has made!
Gut feeling – is it an intuition or reacting to fears – that is what I wondered when I made a really important decision earlier this year.
The personal change I suddenly envisaged was enormous and the whole thing started in a pub in York. It had started – just like that My wife Babs and I were having a meal and conversation when I suddenly announced that I wanted to start a new business.
Now there are a few things that were strange about the changes I was making.
- I was one of the directors in a business
- I am hitting my 70th this year
- There were other people affected by the decision
- Why a retirement business?
- My son was working for us – and he would be affected – what about him?
- There were many things that I did not know about leaving a business
- etc etc
Where had that come from? I had no idea but it was explosive, expansive and made me feel good. You may ask or think – well he was in a pub – was it the beer that was affecting me? NO – it just suddenly was there. Gut GUT Feeling!!
What does go on in our minds – ask Adam Eason my hypnotherapist friend. [ Actually I should have asked him ]
Having made that intuitive decision though is an amazing catalyst for what happens afterwards. You are free to set a new path – WHICH fits in with the life that you love and your ongoing dreams and wishes.
Here for example are my current ambitions.
- Not retire completely – but do something I really love
- Earn money – but in a more relaxed way – passive income an ideal
- Help other people also
- I want to travel and work – motorhome enthusiast
- Help and support my kids and their families
- Keep total life balance
- Help charities and church missions – there is so much poverty and need out there.
The thing is that when running a business with anyone else there are areas of that work you love and others that well … [ I will let you fill in the gap here]
New path – clear ambitions -freedom – what a great and enabling feeling
That is when things start to happen – the timeline is interesting.
One thing leads to another and the positive mindset is in tune.
There is a very popular quote that totally sums this up.
How all of this is happening – AND – what next
I will write about most of the following list over the next few days – just a headline here but I hope you will keep an eye on my blog if you are wanting to learn more about developing an online business ( there is a clue to what I am up to. You can watch me develop a totally new business from scratch – no list – no blog posts yet. I will
SELL AUDIO PRODUCTS WITH THE HELP OF AFFILIATES.
Within the business that I ran with Adam Eason we had an online shop of self-hypnosis products. I now have the freedom to develop this bit of the business separately. The audios and videos sell very well and are evergreen. What I had always wanted to send more time on was developing the sales with the help of affiliates. [more about passive income businesses in a future blog]
AFFILIATES AND MYSELF NEED TRAINING
There is no doubt that affiliates when well trained, (building lists, getting traffic etc) can make a lot of money online – selling other peoples products. I didn’t want to do the training myself – but I wanted a great training area. I also wanted to learn more about how to grow my affiliate business. [Next great move – NAMS – Novice to Advanced Marketing System ]
QUICK WORD ABOUT NAMS
This is the training area that I have discovered AND Oh what a discovery!! A few words are not going to help you much. I want you to get a lot more than that and I want to send you a ’11 Questions Report’ report – SEE BELOW
If you have a hobby interest or skill (you will hear the marketers call this a niche) you can bet your bottom dollar that there are people out there who would like some of your knowledge. Online is a great way to deliver that knowledge.
You can sell other peoples products who offer the niche material that you love. Frankly there are choices galore.
Anyway the simple thing is that it is up to YOU.
Down below I am offering you a download of a pdf about businesses online. Just ask for a copy and I will happily send you this free PDF.
Of course there are other consequences when you take a new path.
I am now an Insider member of NAMS and I get to meet other members who are developing their skills. We all can communicate within an inside private Facebook group. Only yesterday I was getting direct help from a NAMS insider called Kat Sturtz who lives in US. Her marketing knowledge is top notch and I appreciate her insight. (Kat’s Website: Rockingyourpath.com)
Kat made me laugh at the end of our conversation when her Kentucky upbringing was evident. She asked me to ‘Holler if I have any further quesions’. Holler was a word I had only heard in movies. Isn’t it great when people can work together so closely with such ease – no matter where you live.
NEW NICHE BLOG
Within NAMS I have undertaken some of their monthly challenges.
My first project is the affiliate marketing or the hypnosis products – but I have also decided to set up another project based around a niche blog. It is all about my love of travelling in my motorhome. [More about that another day]
SILVER SURFERS AND BABY BOOMERS
What surprised me was the age of the members of NAMS. Middle aged and above on the whole (a shame as I think many young people could certainly benefit and prosper from this resource of internet marketing training materials)
Anyway the long shot is that I am going to particularly market towards people of my age and invite them to join NAMS as an Insider. It will give me great satisfaction if I can help others grasp what they can do for themselves with an online business. [Again more another day]
LOOK AT WHAT IS HAPPENING
Just take a look back at my dreams and goals. In a very short time – without hardly thinking they are all central to what I am doing. Next on this page is an invite. If you are wanting to learn how to earn some money online – don’t just think about it. Make a decision. The way you are going to do it need not matter right away – just know that you want to ‘Create Your Future’.
If you have an expansive feeling just thinking about this it might be a gut feeling – and you can see what that has done for me.
GET THIS REPORT – CHANCE TO CHECK OUT NAMS
Get this FREE report at: 11 Qestions
You will find links to take a look at NAMS. Will I see you there?
Hangout in my bedroom. What is that about? Funny story..
I can only categorise this blog under life – and perhaps I should add a section called bizarre. I just love it when things that are unexpected happen – life’s rich tapestry.
[I will make a blog post shortly about a training business in America where I am developing my marketing skills. So no details at the moment.]
However – here is my opening gambit and meeting with David and Jen who head up the business.
I love their approach so much and the way they operate and keep their organisation rolling and growing. There is a set routine and you know where you stand week by week. Every Thursday they have a Question and Answer session with their member-insiders. (It is annoying that their routine conflicted badly with my schedule of playing badminton in that hour – but I have sorted that now)
I was joining my first one of these Q&A sessions yesterday evening. I had so much I wanted to observe. I had already found out that David’s team are using ‘Webinar Jam‘ and ‘Zoom‘ which are hangout/webinar software programs that I wanted to know more about. I knew they also use ‘Infusionsoft’ software and I am wondering whether to move my list from Aweber. I knew they were going to be talking about a dynamic quiz software etc.
So much to look forward to and just sit down and observe and learn.
So the time of the hangout/webinar or whatever you want to call it approached and it was six o’clock in the evening here in the UK. There was bedlam down stairs with my family coming and going – so I went up to my bedroom – set my pillows up – lolled on my bed – nice and comfortable and logged in for the first time to Zoom.
All was good and I could see my little picture at the top as an attendee. Zoom looked pretty cool – but I didn’t want to sit there (or rather loll there) in front of David and Jen the presenters and all the other insiders who I had not met before.
So I clicked on my picture and there was a small menu, and one of the options was ‘Hide’. Good – thought I and clicked that link. There I was safe and sound – I can do what I like and enjoy the session.
It got dark and I had to turn the light on behind me – which was probably good. Why do I mention that?
Well – David started talking to attendees – and still I just observed and listened taking in every word from other insiders.
Then SHOCK – David said and ‘Hello Keith I have unmuted you’ Not sure of the exact words – but that was enough. What!!!
I had been on show, doing goodness knows what, for one hour in front of all of those people.
I had a thousand and one questions – but to say I was unprepared hardly describes it. I waffled on about goodness knows what. I am actually dreading seeing the recording and my comments.
I have been at the internet for ever – I put up my first website in 1994 when it was in its infancy (a story for another day) The internet still surprises me every day. Why don’t I ever learn.
I will put an elastoplast over my laptop camera in future when I don’t want to be seen.
To all the insiders that were there. ‘HELLO – Keith has arrived’.
Weight loss is something that really concerned me for many years. This diet and that diet – I tried so many. Yo yo effect though – I just had to wait a time before the process had to start again.
I did find the answer but more about that in a minute.
One of the things that most struck me was the setting of the target and time to achieve it. Usually achievable as long as the diet was followed. However there was not a real reason for choosing the specific target that was just a weight figure. The real reason I was wanting the loss was clinical as I had high blood pressure. If I had kept a target of reaching a weight where I knew more about the physiological effects would the target have been different.
And what would that target be?
Now I don’t read a journal call Cell Metabolism over breakfast – in fact it is almost impossible to read for 99 per cent of people out there. However there has been a report in there this week about research carried at the University of Washington in the US.
They did some studies on 40 obese people losing weight on diets.
Important weight loss findings:
The first few pounds may be the hardest to shed, but they are by far the best. Obese people only have to lose 5 percent of their body weight to achieve a marked improvement in their health from rejuvenated liver to a low risk of diabetes. The scientists checked their research participants at 5 percent, 10 percent and 15 percent milestones. They recorded a range of health markers including cholesterol, blood sugar, and insulin sensitivity, a key measure of the risk of diabetes.
Oliver Moody in ‘The Times’ reports that Samuel Klein who is director of the university’s centre for human nutrition said this:
“The biggest bang for your buck”
“The guidelines for treating obesity recommend a 5 to 10 percent weight loss, but losing 5 percent of your weight is much easier than losing 10 percent. So it may make more sense for patients to aim at the easier target.”
“If you weigh 200 lbs, you will be doing yourself a favour if you can lose 10 lbs and keep it off. You don’t have to lose 50 lbs to get important health benefits”
The last paragraph contains a very important phrase.
Keeping the Weight Loss – KEEP IT OFF!
The answer for me a few years ago was realising that everything – yes everything was in the mind – I needed a new mindset.
The answer was nothing to do with different foods and calories etc – it was just looking at what I was doing that was affecting the body shape I wanted and the health benefits I needed.
Using a self-hypnosis audio from my friend Adam Eason was the answer. I was able to change a lot of habitual things that were getting in my way.
- My portions on my plate were too large and I would often go up for second helpings. Eating until I felt full (that is actually uncomfortable) and eating too fast.
- Snacking in between meals – enough said aren’t all those snacks just full of sugar.
- Using the wrong cook books. Why are my two most thumbed books now by Dave Myers and Si King – The Hairy Dieters.
- As for puddings I started by cutting them down in size but in time I began to feel that I didn’t want them and they became quite unpalatable. Just bizarre – I don’t even want sticky puddings any more.
- When I see James Martin on Saturday Kitchen adding more butter to his meal I just think UGGHH!
So that is that – I don’t really now have to think about it at all – I have just acquired new good habits. I am habitually weight sorted.
I really do think that self-hypnosis and thinking about your particular habits that are controlling your weight for you can be your helper.
To get hold of Adam Eason please check out – ‘Mind Your Weight’
The first 5 per cent is all you need worry about – that is great news.
As usual on Sunday I was listening to Sportsweek on Radio 5 and Gary Richardson was interviewing Micky Mellon the manager of Shrewsbury – the minnows who are playing Manchester today in the FA Cup.
What a great interview with this great character and thinker. Charles Darwin was from Shrewsbury and a quote from him describes the football Micky wants – “Survival of the fittest and strongest”
Micky Mellon uses the community to Motivate
Connecting with the local community is central to Mellon’s approach. It’s why he has sent striker Jean-Louis Akpa Akpro into a local school to teach French.
He is actually quite shocked and disappointed that some of his players are actually Manchester United fans. So he has had to overcome some of this with other motivational approach.
Using people from the community is his method. Shrewsbury based people and ideally Shrewsbury fans.
‘I got the local pub landlord to tell them what happens on a Saturday night when we get beat. He started laughing and said “it’s empty”. Right, tell them what happens when we win. “It’s like Magaluf —and, by the way, on Sunday it’s mayhem again”.
To force home a point about sticking to a plan, he invited helicopter pilots from nearby RAF Shawbury to share their harrowing stories about serving in Iraq and Afghanistan.
He has sought advice from the Red Arrows to help prepare for different scenarios in a match.
He has had second world war heroes from Shrewsbury to tell their stories.
There is no doubt that hearing stories and anecdotes from people who you admire and who have obviously had to overcome great challenges to get where they are, is a powerful motivational technique.
Hardly surprising then that Micky Mellon is not kidding himself about Shrewsbury’s chances of causing an upset. ‘We play Man United and we have little chance, but as long as we have that we’ll try to build on it,’ he says.
‘We’re playing Man United because we scored in the last minute against Sheffield Wednesday. We talk about stuff like that, it’s no big panic. That’s what we learned from the Red Arrows.’
Hardly surprising then that Micky Mellon is not kidding himself about Shrewsbury’s chances of causing an upset. ‘We play Man United and we have little chance, but as long as we have that we’ll try to build on it,’ he says.
Anyway – I like so many other football fans will be watching the match this evening shouting out for the underdog. Come on Mellon and Shrewsbury!!
My children – bless them – live with their phones for ever in their hands to keep in touch. Yes very much in touch – not only with people they meet daily and are friends with now; but also with people they were with at school, university etc.
How different that is to the way relationships worked in my younger years. People moved into your life depending on your employment and where you were living. To move on to a new job and location really was quite a wrench. Settling down in the new area meant setting up a new set of friends. Unfortunately apart from Christmas cards there were very few contacts with your past.
If I ever did meet up with anyone from my past I actually really appreciated it. Nothing better than catching up and it was probably down to the large amount of wine involved but those catch up events were full of ho ho ho – good old belly laughs.
What a difference the Internet has made though and it came in at a really great time for me – because I was able to not just say goodbye to great friends for ever – but because contact was going to be possible when we came home from working abroad. (still no idea about Facebook of course – more about that in a minute) The point was that I was able to follow up on one of the most important periods of my life – my Oman years – rich with wonderful friendships and stories galore.
I was out working abroad in Muscat, Oman. I was helping set up a nurse training school at Sultan Qaboos University Hospital and my wife was a Sister in charge of a children’s ward. Our daughter Zoe was just one years old when we moved out there and Tom was actually born out in Muscat.
The hospital was being built and we were out there helping to get the new building set up with staff and commissioned. The maternity unit was opened literally the day before my son Tom was born and he was patient number 000000002 and was really lucky. We only just got my wife Babs to the unit in time – no time popping that pod. If the unit had not been open we would have needed to drive some distance to the nearest maternity unit – in fact we wouldn’t have made it.]
Anyone who has worked abroad as an expat will tell you of the friendships in that situation. Incredible!!
Families totally live together and share everything. In Oman – we would get away at the weekends hundreds of miles in four wheel drives across the desserts, mountains, wadis, and coast. No tents – just sleeping on camp beds looking up at stars. I am getting nostalgic just thinking through some crazy lovely experiences.
The other thing was that the expats were from all over the world. So even though we were there for eight years it was obvious that one day we would have to say long tearful goodbyes.
To name just a few: – Helen and Gordon to Australia; Hilary and Jim to Portugal; Asbjorn and Elsbeth to Denmark; Deborah and Andy – USA; Murdo and Maggie – WELL – OH?? they landed in Poole, Dorset just down the road – very nice.
The great thing is that we have kept in touch. Not to chat daily on Skype – in fact that is rare. No it is social media contact – and when it happens it is magic. Doesn’t have to be too much. Just being able to contact easily is all it needs.
However – what about Facebook. I have really got that youngster attitude towards this social media. I get it and use it. I had a phone call from my daughter Zoe this morning, who is currently living in Manchester with her boyfriend Tom. They have been cleaning their flat this morning because a University friend from three years ago is coming over from Finland to stay. Last week Zoe and Tom went to Madrid for the weekend to stay with a friend from university days. Social media is really leading to social mobility of friendships.
However – I am not a youngster and like many other users my age we are adapting social media in other ways.
Above – I mentioned that in the old days – during my young adult years – there were times when you moved on in your life to a new job, that friendships just had to be forgotten. Sometimes those friendship were important at the time. Sadly I only know of the location of two of my school friends – and yet those friendships then were mega important! I really don’t think that will happen any more now that the internet exists and relationships can be much more flexible. There is almost a second level of friendships – important but with different expectations.
What is different for us older facebook users is the ‘What the hell – what have I found here’ gobsmacked moment.
What if one of your old friends surfaces on Facebook out of the blue – many – MANY years later.
Six months ago I was flicking through Facebook when I saw a name that made jump. Kristina was training as a nurse when I knew her – and what a great character she is. She gave up nursing sadly because there was a family business that needed her on board. I say sadly because she was a good caring nurse who was incredible with the patients and a joy to work with and be around. We were friends and moved around in the same circle. Kristina is just a crazy, caring loving person. However – as always in those days we moved on in our directions. Contact stopped.
So what a surprise when I could just sit and catch up on Facebook – all about her brother – her mother had recently passed – but much to my delight I learned that she has recently married.
I haven’t actually contacted her yet – but I really need to say hello because a week or so ago I saw that Kristina and her husband have just been to Muscat Oman, and there is a picture of her husband at Al Bustan hotel. They certainly know how to live as the Al Bustan doesn’t come cheap – it is an amazing building. [I have some photos of it somewhere (somewhere is the word)].
Anyway all my old friends who have gone off of the radar – hope to chat to you soon if I can find you on Facebook. I don’t care where you live I will be off in my motor-home to say hello.
Now I had better say hello to Kristina on Facebook.
Simple questions for you –
How much would you want to get in your hand £10,000?
How much would any charity value that money?
So many of us value money, and need it badly, but also do what we can to help others where and when possible.
If you are at all like me then you will probably understand why I was wanting to throw a snooker cue through the TV this morning as I listened to this:
These are the words from snooker player Ronnie O’Sullivan in an interview after he had passed up the chance of making a total break of 147.[don’t worry if you don’t understand the snooker reference here – that is not the point)]
“I could have gone on the black off that red and possibly got another 147 – you never know it can get twitchy. BUT £10,000 – it’s too cheap. It is a massive achievement getting a 147 and it is worth more than that. Once it goes up, I’ll give it another go”
Yes he sat there and said that… Unbelievable!
On his shirt were his sponsors logos.
The tournament itself also has a big prize.
Too much money and too self absorbed.
Now don’t let me get going on this further myself – no- much better – listen to another snooker professional Ali Carter who was clearly not impressed:-
“I think that he should have made the 147 and given the money to charity – to Cancer Research or Crohn’s Disease Charity or something like that” Carter said “He should have helped somebody out, but he is only thinking of himself again. Unfortunately that is his problem isn’t it” [TICK]
The amount awarded for a 147 break in World Snooker’s prize pot starts at £5000 and goes up £5000 after every tournament in which one is not made.
Clearly money is not the driving force any more with these mega-rich sportsmen so why not add something that they could really feel the value of and motivate them.
Why not make the prize have a charity component. Say that £2500 was for the player and £2500 was for a charity chosen by the player, – increasing as it does now tournament by tournament.
You never know they might give all of the award to charity.
And why not that approach for the hole in one in golf.